Thursday, 18 March 2010

Adelaide

This is my first attempt at Josie’s Writing Workshop, though I think about doing it almost every week. In fact, this one combines a prompt from this week (1 Tell me about someone from you past who you lost touch with and who you often think about.) with one from last week (4 Imagine there is another ‘you’, living in a parallel universe.).

 

You were 21 in August, not long after Rosemary turned 3. What did you do? Did you have a big party with all your university friends? Did you have a quiet dinner with your mum and your dad and your half brothers and sisters and your grandmothers, raising a glass to your grandfathers, no longer with us? Were you stuck at home with a crying baby, trying to finish an Open University assignment? Did you spend it in the arms of someone you love? Did I call you to say Happy Birthday? Did I bring you gifts and make you cards?

Was I a good mum to you? Did I cuddle you when you cried and show you what it means to love? Or did I leave you with your grandparents while I went out to have fun and get an education? Or did I manage to do both? Did you come to university with me? Did I read you bedtime stories, then hit the books? Were we on our own? Did I shout at you too much? Was I your friend? Did I help you with your GCSE choices? Did I tell all about contraception and how it doesn’t always work? Did I tell you to never have sex until you had finished your education, just in case? Did you listen? Or did I tell you to live your life as you saw fit and to love when it was your time and make your own decisions? Did I teach you to be strong and stand up for yourself? To always know what you want and what you should do? To never allow yourself to be subsumed by another’s wishes and desires. And to never make a life or death decision after getting yourself drunk on half a bottle of Malibu?

Did you come to my wedding? Did you come to meet your sisters after their births? Or were you maybe even at their births? Do you come to their birthdays and shower them with love and gifts?

Are you happy? Were you happy? And what about the me in that universe? Is she happy? Was she happy? Does that even matter?

 

Dear Adelaide, I will never forget you and I wish I could have got to know you, like I am getting to know my little girls. I hope that there is a universe out there where you got to know and to love life. And I’m sorry.

16 comments:

  1. Sometimes I read a post and I want to comment to let the author know that I have read it but I just don't know what to say that doesn't sound wrong. This is one of those times. So, Hi :)

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  2. I dont know what to say really. Life can be hard and we just go on dont we, often with unresolved questions

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  3. I'm the same here... It's hard to think of something I can write about this.

    It was very moving, and made me a lil tearful...

    So sad. Life can be sad, and cruel...

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  4. I feel so sad for you, or the girl you were. It's a story that could have happened to so many of us, I know how very easily it could have happened to me.

    Lovely writing. Hugs.

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  5. brilliantly written. brilliant.
    but - wish I had more words - you are brave and strong and caring to post this, and i know how hard it must have been. *hugs* from someone you don't know but who gets it and would never be brave enough to blog about it

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  6. Yes, you taught her all those things, and she is still learning from you. What a brave post to write and it is heartfelt.

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  7. Like Kelly, I just want to comment to say that I read the post, thought it was a brilliant, brave, beautiful post and don't know what to say. x

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  8. What a brave and incredibly moving post xx

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  9. A stunning piece of writing. Very moving x

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  10. God. This is the most powerful thing I have read in a long time.

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  11. Thank you for all your lovely comments.

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  12. I am late to this. And very sorry for that.

    I am so sad for this loss and this sadness you carry with you.

    Much, much love xxx

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  13. Thanks, Kat and Josie.

    Josie, I'm amazed you manage to go through and read all the entries - I've been trying and have only read the first few.

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  14. I've been browsing backwards through your blog, and came across this. Like others, I don't know what to say, except how brave it was of you to write it.

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